it all comes down to having someone that understands us.  everyone wants to be mysterious enought to keep people interested, but we all want to be known well enought by someone who sees throught it all and knows what's going on without actually knowing what's going on.  The secret is keeping the ballance between knowing and being told.  no one wants to have to know all the time, that takes energy, focus, and concentration.  the problem is we all want to take some measure of shortcuts, to be able to assume what's going on, and jump straight to knowing.  I'm as guilty, or mores so, of that as everyone; mostly more so.  I love being so connected that I can almost instinctively "know" what's going on.  The problem that absolutely creates, is that I fall into the trap of laziness and I let assumptions take over.  Never assume, that makes an ass of you and me.